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  • The Complex Trio: How ADHD, Autism, and Menopause Impact Sleep

    The Complex Trio: How ADHD, Autism, and Menopause Impact Sleep

    The Complex Trio: How ADHD, Autism, and Menopause Impact Sleep

    For many women (myself included), menopause brings a wave of changes, and disrupted sleep is often a frustrating symptom. I found it to be the hardest symptom of menopause to cope with, and HRT didn’t help. But what if you also have to navigate the complexities of ADHD or autism? This trifecta can create a perfect storm for sleep issues. Here’s why and what you can do to reclaim restful nights.

    The Science Behind Sleep Disruption:

    • Menopause and Sleep: Fluctuations in estrogen and progesterone during menopause can disrupt the body’s natural sleep-wake cycle, leading to hot flashes, night sweats, and difficulty falling asleep1
    • ADHD and Sleep: People with ADHD often experience hyperarousal, making it difficult to wind down before bed. Additionally, sleep problems can worsen ADHD symptoms, like inattention and impulsivity
    • Autism and Sleep: Sensory sensitivities and social anxiety can make it challenging to relax and fall asleep. Disruptions in routine, a common feature of autism, can further exacerbate sleep problems.

    The Interconnected Web:

    These conditions can create a vicious cycle. Poor sleep can worsen ADHD symptoms like inattention and impulsivity, making it harder to manage daily tasks and stress, which can then further disrupt sleep. Similarly, sleep deprivation can exacerbate anxiety and sensory sensitivities in individuals with autism.

    Strategies for a More Restful You:

    • Establish a Consistent Sleep Schedule: Go to bed and wake up at the same time each day, even on weekends, to regulate your body’s natural sleep-wake cycle2.
    • Create a Relaxing Bedtime Routine: Develop a calming pre-sleep ritual that includes taking a warm bath, reading a book, or practising gentle stretches.
    • Optimise Your Sleep Environment: Make your bedroom cool, dark, and quiet. Invest in blackout curtains, earplugs, and a comfortable mattress3.
    • Manage Menopausal Symptoms: Talk to your doctor about options to manage hot flashes and night sweats, such as hormone replacement therapy (HRT) or lifestyle modifications like avoiding caffeine and spicy foods before bed4.
    • Address Underlying ADHD/Autism Needs: Consider cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) to manage ADHD symptoms and build healthy sleep habits. For individuals with autism, addressing sensory sensitivities and creating predictable routines can promote better sleep.
    • Light and Exercise: Get regular exposure to natural light during the day, but avoid screens in the evening. Regular exercise, ideally several hours before bedtime, can improve sleep quality.

    What helped me:

    While HRT did get rid of the night sweats pretty much immediately, I still really struggled with sleep. It was definitely the most debilitating symptom of menopause, which I now know was due to my ADHD, too. Over the last 8 years, I’ve tried a lot of aids to try and help. The two below ensure I always have a great night’s sleep.

    • This Works Sleep Plus Pillow Spray: A supersized, fast-acting, motion-activated sleep spray for restless sleepers. 99% natural with encapsulated Lavender, Camomile and Vetivert essential oils, shown to help restore normal sleep patterns. I cannot recommend this highly enough for helping you just get off to sleep every evening. £38.00, 100ml.
    • Nu Mind Wellness Menopause Supplement: #AFF An all-in-one formula combines 40 scientifically backed ingredients expertly blended to effectively manage the symptoms of perimenopause, menopause & beyond. One daily sachet delivers 6 powerful formulas – a multivitamin, minerals, adaptogens, flower remedies, menopause support blend and more – working together to help you reclaim your calm during menopause. This, for me, was an absolute game-changer and has transformed my sleep! I couldn’t be without these supplements. £74.99, 30-day supply (or save 25% using my affiliate link above).

    Remember, you’re not alone! Millions of women navigate this complex web of challenges. By understanding the connections between ADHD, autism, menopause, and sleep, you can implement strategies to promote better rest and reclaim your well-being.

    Fay x

    1. ADHD, Menopause and Insomnia | ADHD, Menopause and Me (adhdmenopauseandme.co.uk) ↩︎
    2. Sleep Hygiene – What is it? | Wellbeing | ADHD, Menopause and Me (adhdmenopauseandme.co.uk) ↩︎
    3. How Much Sleep Do You Need? | Sleep Foundation ↩︎
    4. Perimenopause Diet | 5 Things I’ve cut from my diet | How Felicity Finds ↩︎
  • Jobs for People with ADHD

    Jobs for People with ADHD

    ADHD Strengths

    Prevalence of ADHD in adults in the UK

    NHS data suggests that around 3-4% of UK adults may have ADHD, although diagnosis rates are lower than this. Furthermore, due to greater awareness and improved access to health services, diagnoses are increasing. However, there are still long waiting lists across the UK, even within private diagnostic services. Historically, ADHD was more commonly diagnosed in children, but the demand for adult assessments has surged in recent years. If like me, you spent years moving from job to job/promotion to promotion, suddenly things make sense. Perfectionism, Rejection Sensitivity and Impulsivity are just some symptoms that don’t make sticking to the same job easy. So, are there such things as jobs for people with ADHD?

    ADHD Symptoms

    There are three presentations of ADHD (detailed here) and symptoms can vary greatly from person to person. There are also specific stages in life where symptoms can be exacerbated such as puberty for both sexes; and post-childbirth and menopause for women. Many women have lived the majority of their lives being misdiagnosed with anxiety or depression. They then find when they hit menopause (coincidently when their children may have not long been diagnosed themselves) that life becomes unbearably difficult.

    According to research, around 50-75% of women with ADHD are undiagnosed in childhood, often struggling with symptoms that are masked by coping mechanisms or misinterpreted as personality traits like being forgetful or disorganised. However, late diagnosis continues due to lingering misconceptions about how ADHD presents differently in males and females.

    ADHD Strengths

    We now know that neurodivergence brings with it some specific skills. What is even more exciting is that these skills are now highly sought after in the workplace! But what are those skills, how can you set yourself apart for NTs (neurotypicals) in the job market?

    • Ability to stay focused on a topic or activity of interest for long periods.
    • Outside-the-box thinking, which can lead to innovative solutions to challenges.
    • Strong observational skills and attention to detail.
    • Superior ability to recognise patterns, including in codes and behaviours.
    • Strong skills in areas such as music, art, technology, and science.

    Examples of Jobs for adults with ADHD

    Here are some job suggestions that align with your strengths, making them a good fit for individuals with ADHD:

    1. Creative Fields:
      • Graphic Designer
      • Photographer
      • Writer/Journalist
      • Marketing Specialist
      • Video Editor
    2. Entrepreneurship:
      • Freelancer (design, writing, consulting, etc.)
      • Small Business Owner
    3. Fast-paced or Physical Jobs:
      • Event Planner
      • Chef or Cook
      • Paramedic
      • Sales Representative
      • Personal Trainer
    4. Helping Professions:
      • Teacher (particularly special education and early education)
      • Therapist or Counselor
      • Social Worker
      • Nurse
    5. Tech & Engineering:
      • Software Developer
      • IT Specialist
      • Data Analyst
    6. Project-based Work:
      • Consultant
      • Architect
      • Researcher
      • Project Manager
    7. Outdoor or Active Work:
      • Landscape Gardener
      • Construction Worker
      • Gamekeeper
      • Land Manager / Park Ranger

    It’s important to consider environments that provide flexibility, and clear structure when needed. Finding a career that plays to your strengths, can lead to long-term satisfaction and success.

    Fay x